Yes and thank you, iO

I just wrapped up a few weeks of improv classes at Chicago’s inimitable iO Theater down on Kingsbury. It was a gift from my love, Marielle, who insisted I just do it after taking too long, repeatedly expressing how badly I wanted to, while simultaneously making excuses about not having enough time, etc. That’s why…

The Military, Vultures + Residential Remodeling – unlikely lessons in UX

Before I moved to the State of Abe a few years ago, I lived in Juneau, Alaska. From time-to-time, I worked with military personnel, most often legal counsel, the types that handle deals to procure real estate on which to build things, all kinds of things, from barracks to administrative offices, training facilities and storage…

Stepdadding: verb.

Stepdadding (sp?) is, without a doubt, one of the most challenging things I have ever taken on in my life. Here’s a part of my stepdad story. An off-the-top-of-my-head inventory of past experiences I draw insights from almost every day in my quest to be a solid stepdad? The list includes experiences like this: Designing…

Blending : Building A New World Family : Part II

This is the second time I’ve written about this (first was back in March) and, since then, we’ve taken huge leaps forward together, and each on our own, as our little family continues to evolve. On August 12, 2016, we (all of us!) officially marked our marriage and new family during a festive celebration at…

Blending: Building A New World Family

This is the first time I’ve ever done this and, since I’ve spent seemingly countless middle-of-the-night hours reading everyone else’s opinion about it on the Internet, I will offer my own out of respect for others – now knowing just what it feels like, having only imagined it up until now. If you are like…

Parallel Parenting: A Strategy for Acceptance

Divorces are snow-flakey, meaning each one is different. Some people are able to be grown-ups about it and be respectful, friendly enough to co-parent but, honestly, this is the exception rather than the rule. Everyone has to move on, eventually. Acceptance is not always easy, though. Not everyone is good at accepting new paradigms, especially…

A single-parent household glossary

“Kid-free” I describe every other week as “kid-free.” It first appeared when I started dating again. Browsing the profiles of divorced women and then writing my own, it was important to specify that one was occasionally, hopefully regularly and consistently, kid-free. “Every other week I’m typically kid-free.” Actually, his mom frequently calls on me to…