Living With Dementia

Mom passed away three years ago today. After initially being diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease, it was a few months later, at the University of Iowa Hospitals, when she was diagnosed with vascular dementia. As her world (and ours) fell apart, I realized that Mom’s behavior suddenly made perfect sense. I also became startlingly aware that,…

I didn’t go to university. I learned from Linux instead. 

TOUGH CHOICES When I chose to forego college, preferring instead to join the working world confident that doors would open, there were a lot of the kinds of reactions one might expect. Most asked things like: “what are you thinking?” “why would you do such a thing?” “what are you planning to do instead?” My…

Changing without changing

Many of us make great sacrifice to avoid it. Laws are written and put into place to stymy it. Large, expensive buildings are built to protect against it. Minds are made up against it and reject ideas that even hint at it. Blockades of all sorts are built against potential outcomes that may lead to…

Blending: Building A New World Family

This is the first time I’ve ever done this and, since I’ve spent seemingly countless middle-of-the-night hours reading everyone else’s opinion about it on the Internet, I will offer my own out of respect for others – now knowing just what it feels like, having only imagined it up until now. If you are like…

“I Dunno”

Around here, we’re preparing to move into a new house, which means going through things, throwing many away, uncovering other precious gems. It’s always an introspective experience to stumble onto artifacts, proof of moments long past. It is odd how stumbling onto a trail left by the past comforts us into the future. I found…

#PrivacyAwareDay

In anticipation of #PrivacyAwareDay, the smart people (including Jon Callas) at @SilentCircle, in collaboration with @Guardian (journalist Aleks Krotoski), made this rad documentary about privacy and security. It is worth 30 minutes of your time. Please watch it.

“Daddy, what’s ergonomy?”

Whether for work or play, we are all spending more and more time than ever in front of our various devices: desktops, laptops, tablets and phones. Computer-related injuries due to prolonged use of computers are very real and are risks. Some of us experience occasional soreness in our hands or wrists, mostly after marathon binges…

Rituals

Is it a tough debate that rituals have not been affected by recent changes in our modern age? Do many people spend more time alone with machines than in the company of others? Have machines conversely opened doors to more rituals for more people? Are the new rituals, such as sitting together at a restaurant…

Perspective

The first time I saw this was sometime in May of 2011 while flying across the US inside a Boeing 737. I was commuting back and forth between the Midwest and West Coast on a weekly basis. I was uncertain about a lot of things. Specifically, in addition to my dad’s health failing and wanting…

Dad

Dad was a storyteller. His greatest gift was making people feel comfortable being themselves. He had a story for every situation, every occasion and seemed to be powered by empowering others. He may not have represented this exactly for his immediate family, but he largely impacted a circumference around himself that he surely thought of…

The teeter of convenience, the totter of innovation

Every Christmas, as I watch everyone tear into gifts and unearth the world’s latest new hotness, I cannot help myself to fixate on innovation – what it is, what it means, what makes it successful and the key tenets of achieving wide adoption. It always reminds me of a seesaw, the way a system is…

Parallel Parenting: A Strategy for Acceptance

Divorces are snow-flakey, meaning each one is different. Some people are able to be grown-ups about it and be respectful, friendly enough to co-parent but, honestly, this is the exception rather than the rule. Everyone has to move on, eventually. Acceptance is not always easy, though. Not everyone is good at accepting new paradigms, especially…

The top-ten list of things that don’t get easier with practice – Number One – saying goodbye (Part VI)

On a regular top-ten list of almost bearable life-changing events, waiting-for-your-dad-to-die would rank second, perhaps, only to waiting-for-mom-to-die (depending on your situation), but both are tied for first with most things involving the complexities of life, death, emotion and identity.  On a top-ten list of things that don’t get easier with practice, however, many of…

The unswerving punctuality of chance (Part II)

There are some things that happen, happy accidents, that could not have been planned. Like stumbling on the carpet, catching yourself on the the edge of a shelf where, looking behind a small picture frame there, you find a key you lost seemingly years ago that unlocks that bike lock you have lived without all…

Dear Tom Petty

You’re great. I love you but –> you’re wrong. The waiting is not the hardest part. The hardest part is enduring other people’s impatience, putting up with the kind of thinking that they are entitled to act impatient as if they have anything else to do. These people act like self-absorbed rock stars and they…

Questions as the new answers?

How to ask questions A new hotness in traditional education cultures started a few years back and was called “inquiry-based learning“. It meant just what it was called: learning based on inquiry, on motivating students to ask questions about whatever was being presented to them. It was about starting a conversation. The trouble with asking…

Great UX makes Infrastructure sexy

Sexy may not be the feeling that the word ‘infrastructure’ inspires in most of us, however, many are hoping that perception changes. In a hurry. Infrastructure is key to what makes the INTERNET as captivating as it is. In this context, the context of technology, most companies (especially small and medium-sized business) think of it…

Hozier

It has been a long time since I have been this excited about an artist. I will let the music speak for itself. Read more about Hozier here. Meanwhile:

The Mysterious Mentor Adventure

On the morning my mom passed away I had to write her obituary. I had been putting it off. Meanwhile, there was a stream of people coming by the room at the hospice facility where we were. I couldn’t talk. I couldn’t even write the thing without my hands shaking. When I was finished, I…